Forgive me but...
I just got done watching Jon and Kate +8 premier and
its really hit me. Before you start reading and think
"She's just being bitter because she doesn't have a boyfriend anymore",
stop right there. You're wrong, I've felt this way for a while, just haven't said anything.
I'm not sad or upset, just thoughtful. If you aren't in the mood stop reading.
In my opinion:
Everything you have seen in the movies about love is complete and utter craziness.
No one stays in love or falls in love the way they make it look.
The reason marriages don't last is because people take what the media creates for us and thinks that is love, and get married.
Wrong.
People don't know God (aka love) anymore.
You can't always plan ahead to all of the wonderful and all bad things that will come your way in life but you do need to plan for things to suck.
Marriage needs to be to someone who will be with you at all times: quiet times, hard times, crazy times, angry times, and spiritual times. YES, spiritual times which is the most difficult to let someone into, atleast for me. (I think I know I've found my husband when we pray together.)
Marriage also should consist of the different types of love, not just the type of love that you feel when you are "in love".
When I think of loving someone i immediately begin to think of care giving, helping, and generosity. (When I have loved those are the things I feel for those people, I want to be there for them and get them through whatever it is.)
If we went into marriage wanting to take care of them and knowing that eventually one day its going to be different.
Things will change.
Maybe it would be easier for couples?
A Damien Rice quote, "Love taught me to lie".
When you love someone you lie to them. Take that how you want to, but you lie to them because you don't want to hurt them. Its true and its kind of endearing even though we are supposed to pride ourselves in truth telling.
I like this ^ and still want to marry and be in love again one day;
knowing I will be lied to and will probably lie in return.
I just got done watching Jon and Kate +8 premier and
its really hit me. Before you start reading and think
"She's just being bitter because she doesn't have a boyfriend anymore",
stop right there. You're wrong, I've felt this way for a while, just haven't said anything.
I'm not sad or upset, just thoughtful. If you aren't in the mood stop reading.
In my opinion:
Everything you have seen in the movies about love is complete and utter craziness.
No one stays in love or falls in love the way they make it look.
The reason marriages don't last is because people take what the media creates for us and thinks that is love, and get married.
Wrong.
People don't know God (aka love) anymore.
You can't always plan ahead to all of the wonderful and all bad things that will come your way in life but you do need to plan for things to suck.
Marriage needs to be to someone who will be with you at all times: quiet times, hard times, crazy times, angry times, and spiritual times. YES, spiritual times which is the most difficult to let someone into, atleast for me. (I think I know I've found my husband when we pray together.)
Marriage also should consist of the different types of love, not just the type of love that you feel when you are "in love".
When I think of loving someone i immediately begin to think of care giving, helping, and generosity. (When I have loved those are the things I feel for those people, I want to be there for them and get them through whatever it is.)
If we went into marriage wanting to take care of them and knowing that eventually one day its going to be different.
Things will change.
Maybe it would be easier for couples?
A Damien Rice quote, "Love taught me to lie".
When you love someone you lie to them. Take that how you want to, but you lie to them because you don't want to hurt them. Its true and its kind of endearing even though we are supposed to pride ourselves in truth telling.
I like this ^ and still want to marry and be in love again one day;
knowing I will be lied to and will probably lie in return.
You know, I've changed my mind. I'm being a realist not a cynic.
Meagan I love this!
ReplyDeleteI dont think the "lying" that you are talking about is the "lying" of the world. At least not to me. To me, your "lying" is the putting the significant other's wants/needs ahead of your own. For example, if I think that a shirt looks dumb on my gf, but it's her favorite shirt, I will smile when she wears it because I know it's her favorite shirt. [Might be a terrible example, but I wanted to make up a not true example]. Excellent points though, kudos to you booger.
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